But then another aspect of these new found friendships is that they are not always forever-forever kind.
Most mid-twenty resort to statements like ” I cannot make new friends” and despite this they do connect with hundreds of people each year through work or else where.
Any reasons for this
Let me point out a few.
Changing age has brought with an evolving mindset and then to inclucate new friends another set of modifications need to be made. This together more or less create a rebel inside our minds and we refuse to incorporate at least one. More often the friendship
The idea of meeting someone new stops to excite. Perhaps years of bonding and re-bonding with people has made us closed to the idea on the whole
You do not have the time to invest in people. Life has thrown so much at you with its vast expanse of responsibilities that new friends have no space or time anymore.
We are scared me might get hurt again.
What are the odds the friendship will benefit us in any way? Like most mid-twenties we have become way too much rational and practical and need or identify a profit with every activity. Few friendships come with that.
But can we say this is how we should be? Can we safely assume that the idea of being a closed person help us grow in any direction?
I have no tips for this because I have never been able to break the circle as such. I am one of those people who repeatedly say that ‘I am too old to make new friends” But I am all ears to here some of your pointers on this.
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I think I skipped this stage – for me it happened in my forties. Slow? 😉
I think I was always in this phase. Never had many friends 🙂 but the ones I had were forever 🙂
For me it is reverse.The number of my friends grew with age.
Hm, interesting read Richa.. I ‘m thinking more: I am never too old to have new friends… Some will be with u all lif and some will come and go – and that’s ok too
Interesting. Friends were definitely left in the past only to be found again later on Face Book. By then they became mere acquaintances.
hehe! I will still be a child at heart, meeting new people and exploring new avenues. Agree! That it can get to us where we prioritize our life, remove clutters and relish wonderful memories spent with friends. I mean, its fine, if friends don’t have time coz everyone got their priorities. Lets make new memories and move on in life:)
yea.. I can relate to this.. I made very few friends in my mid 20s and broke quite a few friendships as well!
I’m in two minds too, Richa. On the one hand, we’re never too old to make new friends. On the other, it can be difficult when you grow older, because you’ve been hurt.
I have a confession to make – I love to preach. But the positive is, I resist the temptation to do so most of the time.
I am in mid-thirties and after reading your blog, I really had the temptation to preach about the rights and wrongs. But I won’t 🙂
I will just say that I enjoy reading your blogs and remembering my ‘good old days’ – somehow, the good part dominate the memories.
So true Richa, I have often felt that making friends was a definite hardship and felt like so much of effort. It is that getting out of the comfort zone to make a new one till it starts getting fun.
But I do agree, the friendships of the early 20’s are the ones that remain forever. After that, I certainly have met a lot of people and have found that it takes effort to maintain while the older ones don’t need much.. Either ways friends are one hell of a treasure no matter how old or new 🙂
i have recently started making friends at my daughter’s play school with other moms. its only now, after so many years i am connecting with so many people and its brilliant. and i have made some good friends 🙂 but as you said the friendships i have made in my early 20’s are still around, maybe just on facebook and whats app…because they live far away…still they are always there. lovely post 🙂
Very difficult to say …!